Channeled Message to Delight in the Messiness

These times are messy. All the old structures are collapsing. How could it be anything else? Divinely, beautifully, perfectly, disastrously messy. Delight in it. Imagine you are a child playing in mud.

Because in many ways that is what you are. Being reborn into a new iteration of you that is not trying to be anything other than what you are. And that is terrifying to the parts that learned being fully you wasn’t acceptable. Wasn’t safe.

Let it be terrifying. Chaotic. And magical. Full of possibility. The parts that want order and predictability are just vestiges of the old paradigm that is currently collapsing.

Play in the mud. Let yourself get dirty. Laugh in the wreckage of your old life. Find the humor, if you can. Remember this is all perfect.

Your circumstances are bringing to the surface all that is wanting to be released into the light. You can either flounder in the old and be trapped in the box, or stomp on it and pretend you have risen above out of anger, or fear, or aversion, but in fact you’ve only stowed away the box of wounds for them to arise again at another time for the love and healing they need.

Or instead, you can flatten the box, flip it over, bring love to all that has been stored there (the wounds, repressed emotions, old beliefs and coping strategies), find the ground beneath — at your feet and in the earth. And, when you have found your center again, the ground within, release the contents of the box back to light, vibration and sound. Like captive birds being freed from their cages at last.

 

 

© Jenny Brav

Channeled Message to Delight in the Messiness2024-07-19T22:14:42+00:00

Channeled Wisdom on Dissolution of Form*

 

Form and matter are dissolving. Many of the things you have been building might be crumbling or changing shape. You can no longer rely on the old ways of finding stability. This is PERFECT. Bring love and compassion to the scared parts that are clinging wildly, desperately, to the old paradigms that no longer serve.

This crumbling, this dissolution, is not a sign of lack, scarcity, or failure, but rather of PROFOUND TRANSFORMATION. Not just for you, but for humanity as a whole. Your job is to LET GO. To trust and surrender. This is the time for your true nature to shine. To gently, lovingly, firmly show the way for others who cling to the safety of the old boxes. To experience and model for others the limitlessness and abundance that is available when you release form.

For your spiritual evolution, humans were tasked to play with matter and form in ways that other species couldn’t. However, the attachment to form is what is now blocking many of you from accessing the next stage of your evolution, which is to step into a spiritual era of non-separation and nonduality like non other that has been seen before. An era of heart rather than mind. Where you will use all the advances you have made in the physical and material realms to access source more directly and to help break down all the boxes you have created (of hierarchy, division, separation, categorization and so on) that no longer serve in any way.

Of course, when this happens, many will and are hanging on for dear life, causing a lot of the strife, conflict, violence and hatred you are seeing in the world. If you are reading this you are probably one of the ones who volunteered to lead the way for those who are hanging on. To do that, you are being called to allow all that you cling to for safety to collapse. Things must fall apart before you can rebuild. The void created by the dissolution of old patterns is here for you to expand into. Not to shrink into the old fears and smallness, but to take up all the space there is, and more. To grow into the bigness that this next iteration requires of you. To find your own immutable solidity within the storm rather than collapse with it.

If the things you’re throwing at this moment are not working, there’s a reason for it. Your current circumstances are never intended to punish or keep you down, but rather to bring to the surface what needs loving attention so it can be released back into the light. It is merely your beliefs and stories about what is happening that keep you mired in the lower vibrations.

Trust and surrender, dear one. Release your attachment to the outcome. And call upon your resources and allies to elevate you to a higher perspective. From this vantage point, you will see that everything is perfect. And all that is being asked of you is to step into the light and release back to love all that no longer serves. You are loved and supported, always. Every step of the way.

 

 

© Jenny Brav

Channeled Wisdom on Dissolution of Form*2024-07-09T16:38:27+00:00

Navigating Transition *

Are you in a time of change? Do you feel overwhelmed and out of control?

“hold still. stay there. tease back the layers. you are in the space between your comfort zone and infinity. you want to hide. not be seen. not be open. not be vulnerable. but you have to.”

– Jeanette LeBlanc

This is a time of great transition for many people. Even when the change is something we’ve worked hard to achieve, it can still trigger old fears and coping strategies. And if the transition is an unwelcome one, it can definitely turn our world upside down.

As children, many of us experienced change as uncomfortable, disempowering, and at times, threatening to our survival. As such, we often developed coping strategies of control and hyper vigilance to try to feel safe. Big life changes can trigger fear of the unknown and anxiety. It may also be challenging to make smaller transitions from work to the weekend, from wakefulness to sleep, and so on.

 

The following are 6 tips for navigating transition so you can feel grounded and light in moving forward:

1. Notice your response

I invite you to get really curious about your reaction to this period of change. Notice any areas of your body that are calling for attention. What emotions are arising? What thoughts are coming up for you about yourself or the world? You might want to jot down what you are observing in a journal.

2. Identify your beliefs

As you begin to notice your own response, start feeling into a belief about yourself or the World that might be underlying your response. For example, “I’m not good enough,” “I have to control things to be safe,” “change is terrifying.” Is this a familiar belief and feeling? If you wish, you might trace this feeling back to an earlier time, perhaps in childhood, when you felt something similar. What was going on? What led you to develop the belief you just identified?

3. Give yourself empathy

When we are struggling, we often add insult to injury by berating ourselves and resisting our own reaction – i.e. “what is wrong with me?!” While this usually comes from a desire to shift our response, our self-criticism usually only serves to reinforce the parts that are afraid or resistant. You might choose to play with naming and accepting your feelings. I like saying hello to whatever is coming up.

For example: “Hi fear. Hi anxiety. I know you are there. I know you HATE change. I get it. I know that change was often super scary when I was a young. It’s OK to be scared.”

4. Find the ground within

When faced with an uncertain situation, many of us have learned to try to control, manage and predict external conditions to feel safe. That will only lead our minds to spin out of control. The pathway back to safety is through the body and returning to the current moment. Feel your breath. Notice sounds outside. I also encourage finding a short practice you can do every day that helps you feel grounded. A few that I like are: tapping all over my body from top to bottom; shaking for a minute or two; sending my breath down my spine, legs, and all the way to my toes; touching a tree and discharging any anxiety I might have.

5. Invite in new beliefs

Look back at your identified belief about yourself or the world. Now that you have acknowledged your feelings and started finding ways to ground internally, imagine what new beliefs you might replace the old beliefs with. For example “this can be easy.” “I’m creating my own reality, and I’m choosing for this to be fun.” “I am enough.” “My worth is innate and not dependent on my performance.”

6. Do a ritual to mark the transition

I’m a big proponent of rituals to mark the end of one era and the beginning of another (see my blog posts on closing rituals and new beginnings). These practices allow us to take a step back and reflect on what we are leaving behind and what is opening up for ourselves, rather than feeling like we are in the middle of the spin cycle of life.

Here is a brief outline of a ritual you can do either as a meditation, a nature walk outside, or a ritual at home (perhaps lighting a candle, or setting the space in any way that feels good to you). You can also do this as a reflective exercise with your journal:

  • Feel into what is coming to a close for you. What were the lessons you learned? What are you grateful for? What are you wanting to leave behind as you move forward?
  • Feel into the time that is to come. What is shifting for you? What is the theme of this era? What do you want to call in for yourself (this might be qualities, support, or something specific you want to manifest)?
  • What is a question you are sitting with as you enter this new era? For example: How do I let go of what no longer serves me? How can I bring in more ease and joy? You might imagine you are dropping the question into the top of your head and letting it seep into your body. For the next week, pay attention to your dreams, things people say to you, and any messages from the natural World.

May you find peace and ease in this time of change.

Change is the time of the chrysalis –
The soupy mess
Between the caterpillar
And the butterfly.
It is the space from
A and B
We so often try to skip over
In our impatience to arrive.
We forget that there is no future, no there  —
Only the building blocks
Of each present moment
Bleeding into the next.
If I am not here,
Now,
Then I will never arrive.
Because when I land
Into the future
I fret about now,
I will have already jumped
Onto the next worry train,
Having missed the beauty
Of the scenery
Along the way.

© Jenny Brav

 

 

 

 

Navigating Transition *2024-03-26T10:30:20+00:00

The Lost Art of Closing Rituals *

Do you find yourself hanging onto things from your past? Is change bringing up fear and resistance? Are there areas of your life where it is difficult for you to move forward?

“Every ending is a beginning. We just don’t know it at the time – Mitch Albom

Closing RitualsTransition and change are an inevitable part of life, especially in our rapidly evolving world. While we celebrate certain big transitions (such as graduations, weddings, deaths, welcoming in a new year), for the most part we have lost the art of ritually marking the end of one thing, and making space for the new. As a result, many of us have difficulty letting go of what was and accepting what is, which may lead us to feel stuck or weighed down by old baggage. What I have found is that whatever the ending – be it the end of a relationship, the loss of a loved one, changing jobs, or moving from one place to another – holding a simple ritual can be very helpful in gaining closure.

Although the ritual will differ depending on what kind of ending we are marking, the following are four main elements you will want to include. You may want to light a candle or burn sage, and it’s also fine to keep it very simple. The most important thing is the intention with which you hold the ceremony. If your relationship is ending, doing a closing ceremony with your (ex) partner can be very powerful, but doing it on your own is also fine, if that is not possible.

1. Appreciation and gratitude
The first step is to express – either verbally or in writing – your appreciation for what is ending. In the case of a relationship or the loss of a loved one, what did you love about that person? What did you gain from the job you are leaving, or the living space you are moving from?

Depending on the circumstances around the ending, conflicting feelings may come up. Anger, grief, confusion, regret, disappointment… Allow the emotions to come up. See if you can track the physical sensations as they move through your body.

2. Lessons learned
If appropriate, make a list of what you learned from the person, place or experience. We often resist change or what is because we have an idea of how things should be instead. Recognizing ways that we have grown from even challenging situations can allow us to get perspective on the bigger picture and gain insight on how that situation might have served us.

3. Letting Go
Next, write or state the things you are ready to let go of from the experience (be it a relationship, an old job, a phase of life, a living situation etc.). Your list could include emotions or reactivity such as fear, anger, blame, or it might include patterns that came up for you such as making yourself small, focusing on negatives, not feeling valued, settling for less than you want, and so on.

4. Moving Forward
Finally, state what you want to attract into your life as you move forward. If you have left one job or living situation for another, express what your intentions and/or desires are for the new situation. If the future is unknown (one thing is ending but the next hasn’t begun yet, for example), close your eyes, and visualize in as much detail as possible what you are wanting to bring into your life. See yourself dropping that image into your energy field, and letting it ripple outward. That way, you are setting an intention for what you want, without clinging to it to closely.

“There’s a trick to the ‘graceful exit.’ It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over–and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.” – Ellen Goodman

© Jenny Brav

 

 

 

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The Lost Art of Closing Rituals *2023-12-31T19:12:15+00:00
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